Procedure: from self-reflection to real action

In the Self-Knowledge-Method (SKM) two equal experts work together: you and your SKM-coach. The coach is expert in the SKM-method and will help you with your self-analysis. You are the expert - as no other can be - of the motives, experiences, circumstances and persons who determined your life so far.

SKM, the Self-Knowledge-Method, comprises the following phases:
  1. A personal opening question, concrete or still emerging, forms the base for the analysis.
  2. In the first consultation the opening question in the context of the life’s story is central. In Meeting 1, the SKM coach helps the client reflect broadly on the people, events, situations and circumstances of importance in his or her life. The SKM coach documents the detail of the client’s story and works with the individual to refine this information into a set of statements of importance: the valuations. A valuation is a sentence that describes an aspect of the client’s story that has particular relevance and significance.
  3. Together with the SKM coach the client formulates his or her story about past, present and future in a couple of dozen statements of importance; the personal valuations’.
  4. In between Meetings 1 and 2, the client – using a relevance scale -connects each statement to a personalized index of feelings. This is a critical precursor to action-planning because how we feel about what we think provides the important link between our ‘thoughts’ and our ‘actions’. Using specially developed software, these linkages are shown as correlation patterns in how the statements were scored. You send back the results to your SKM-coach.
  5. The scores will be transformed to so-called ‘feeling patterns’ per statement. This configuration of “feeling patterns” is as personal and unique as fingerprints.
  6. In Meeting 2, the SKM coach and client explore the statements and resulting patterns. The client’s own interpretations of the various connections highlight the significance underlying the patterns. This self-investigation enables the client to fully understand the story behind the opening question in a deeper and more meaningful way. That shines a new light on motives and feelings behind the clients functioning. This in turn allows the person to articulate a personal and powerful vision and develop a plan of action to make this future work. This consultation takes approximately four hours and can be divided into two sessions.
  7. Subsequently the client starts to practise the results of the SKM Self-analysis.

    For follow-up, if desirable, a few extra appointments will make the change visible.